* Graceful Shutdown for windows and others

Restructures modules/graceful, adding shutdown for windows, removing and
replacing the old minwinsvc code.

Creates a new waitGroup - terminate which allows for goroutines to
finish up after the shutdown of the servers.

Shutdown and terminate hooks are added for goroutines.

* Remove unused functions - these can be added in a different PR

* Add startup timeout functionality

* Document STARTUP_TIMEOUT

* Prevent deadlock in indexer initialisation during graceful restart

* Move from gracehttp to our own service to add graceful ssh

* Add timeout for start of indexers and make hammer time configurable

* Fix issue with re-initialization in indexer during tests

* move the code to detect use of closed to graceful

* Handle logs gracefully - add a pid suffix just before restart

* Move to using a cond and a holder for indexers

* use time.Since

* Add some comments and attribution

* update modules.txt

* Use zero to disable timeout

* Move RestartProcess to its own file

* Add cleanup routine