Fix OEmbed preview API leaking existence of private statuses (see #12930)

* No need to re-require sidekiq plugins, they are required via Gemfile

* Add derailed_benchmarks tool, no need to require TTY gems in Gemfile

* Replace ruby-oembed with FetchOEmbedService

Reduce startup by 45382 allocated objects

* Remove preloaded JSON-LD in favour of caching HTTP responses

Reduce boot RAM by about 6 MiB

* Fix tests

* Fix test suite by stubbing out JSON-LD contexts

* Embed modal

* Proxy OEmbed requests from web UI