Fix #9817

- Some associations were missing from the clean-up
- Some attributes were not reset on suspension
- Skip federation and streaming deletes when purging a dead domain
- Move account association definitions to concern

Leave `tootctl accounts cull` to simply check removed accounts from
live domains, and skip temporarily unavailable domains, while listing
them in the final output for further action.

Add `tootctl domains purge DOMAIN` to be able to purge a domain from
that list manually